How to Talk to Family Members About Conspiracy Theories
This article appears in POPSUGAR.COM; Fri. 8/27/20 by Kaley Rohlinger, who interviewed me, along with other experts. Discussing politics and current events with family members isn't always easy. Despite shared genetics, our identities, experiences, and generational...
What To Do When You Disagree – COVID
“Jason was so upset!” Cecily’s face on my computer screen looked ashen. My client had requested a private meeting, seeking support for a recent event in her relationship that had filled her with fear and confusion. “On the drive home he just kept repeating, ‘they are...
Neutrality is Invalidation
Invalidation is a form of relational trauma which, over time, harms the brain and nervous system, and also results in the disintegration of any healthy bonds of connection, and dissolution of trust in others. Healing requires the slow, ongoing work of diligent growth...
Under Stress We All Regress
When Karen’s face popped up on my computer screen, I sensed a storm was raging in her world. “How’ve you and your family been doing with the shelter-in-place mandate?” I asked. “Not great!” She fired back. Frustration, disappointment, and resentment...
Is it Love, if I’m left in the “Cookie Jar?”
Thrive Global asked me to answer this question for our Gottman column "Asking For A Friend." I hope my words for this hurting person can help you or someone you know. Q: I feel like I’m being “cookie-jarred” in my relationship. Will things ever change? My...
I Thought I Was Completely Over My Ex, But I Keep Thinking of Her. Is That Weird?
Q: My ex-girlfriend and I broke up about a year ago, and I’ve been dating a new woman for the past few months. We’re happy, and my previous relationship is in the past. But I recently found out that my ex is dating someone new, and for some reason, it bothers me....
Listen to Ambient Music for Meditation, Relaxation and Blissful Sleep
I stream an amazing program called Simmer Down on KYRS Thin air community radio 88.1/92.3 FM out of Spokane Washington. The DJ has curated ambient music for the explicit purpose of inducing states of deep relaxation. Every Sunday night I put on my headphones...
I’m Nervous the Person I’m Dating is Losing Interest: Am I Just Paranoid?
Q. I’ve been seeing someone for a couple months and things are going well — but I constantly feel nervous that he’s about to end things. Sometimes things seem to be great, and then sometimes I feel like he’s losing interest. Am I just being too...
Friendships: Should You Let Go of Old Friends if You’ve Grown Apart?
Q: I find I have less and less in common with my longtime friends. I grew up with them, and they’ll always hold a place in my heart, but as we’ve gotten older, we’ve drifted. There’s no doubt we’re in different places in our lives, and just don’t have that much to...
How to Fix Communication Issues with Your Spouse
Q: My husband and I are having communication issues. The main problem is he doesn’t converse with me! Everywhere I read and hear that human connection and bonding is important. He responds “uh huh” to most of my “bids” and I am at a loss as to what to do. I’ve tried...