by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Aug 28, 2020 | Communication, Family
This article appears in POPSUGAR.COM; Fri. 8/27/20 by Kaley Rohlinger, who interviewed me, along with other experts. Discussing politics and current events with family members isn’t always easy. Despite shared genetics, our identities, experiences, and...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Jun 12, 2020 | Soul & Spirit, Uncategorized
Invalidation is a form of relational trauma which, over time, harms the brain and nervous system, and also results in the disintegration of any healthy bonds of connection, and dissolution of trust in others. Healing requires the slow, ongoing work of diligent growth...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | May 16, 2020 | Heart & Mind, Relationships
John and Shannon brought their tattered marriage to therapy, to see if they could salvage it from an affair. Right away, we discovered they had a deep habitual communication pattern. John had a veneer of sweetness that we decided to call the “chill dude.” He liked to...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Apr 17, 2020 | Body & Brain, Relationships
When Karen’s face popped up on my computer screen, I sensed a storm was raging in her world. “How’ve you and your family been doing with the shelter-in-place mandate?” I asked. “Not great!” She fired back. Frustration, disappointment, and resentment...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Feb 10, 2020 | Dating, Heart & Mind, Relationships
“Healthy communication is the lifeblood of love. A relationship will only be as good as its communication.” Gary Smalley Our motivations (or goals) drive our messages, which are also highly driven by the levels of soothing or stress we feel in...