Jenny TeGrotenhuis, LMHC
Certified Gottman Therapist
Hi, I’m Jenny
The path to peace with your partner, family or world often begins with inner peace. My passion is helping people find both inner peace and relational peace. I’m aware of the power of words to wield both hope and despair. As a therapist and as a writer, I serve as a witness and a warrior on behalf of others. I’m privileged to touch and facilitate changed lives.
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Because my appointment schedule is usually full, I’m not often able to accept new clients. This really bothers me – because there is so much I can share with you that will help you start to turn things around, even if we aren’t able to meet in person. So, if you leave your email address below, I promise to support you with free tips and blogposts. And if you want to ask a confidential question, I will do my best to cover your specific concerns in my future writing.
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I love learning and have dedicated myself to applying principles and tools that are well-documented by research to be effective for making lasting changes. When we work together, we’ll set some clear, concrete goals for you, and I’ll help you make gentle shifts in awareness and behavior so that you can experience the changes you’re seeking.
The therapies I use are based in neuroscience, and leverage neuroplasticity along with compassionate counseling to help you make those lasting changes. Lifespan Integration Therapy and Internal Family Systems Therapy are powerful, yet gentle techniques that clear trauma and emotional blocks from the nervous system. The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions to stimulate healing changes.
While my background is clinical, I can also support concerns from a faith-based perspective when that is desired. I enjoy diversity and “out of the box” creative thinking and individuals. My schooling is also very diverse, and I’ve studied in small private institutions – Westminster College; Heritage University, as well as the large public graduate school at the University of California, Berkeley.
“Courage starts with showing up and letting yourself be seen.”
Why not apply what science has discovered about making relationships happy – and making relationships last?
The Gottman Method is based on 40 years of scientific research – and we know what works! We help all types of couples across all phases of life. One of the big findings is that your negative emotions like defensiveness and contempt have more power to hurt your relationship than positive emotions have to help your relationship. If your relationship is hurting, we begin immediately to heal the painful negativity and switch on emotions that restore love. We will focus on developing deeper connections, so that you can maintain fondness and admiration, turn toward each other to get your needs met (especially when you are hurting), manage conflict, and enact your dreams—and also know what to do when you mess up (because everyone does).
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Lifespan Integration and Internal Family Systems Therapy occur in the context of a deeply attuned interpersonal connection established between us. The direction of therapy is found within your own story as it unfolds through our collaborative process. In some ways, even though we are sitting across from one another in chairs, you will experience it like a session of physical therapy. I will coach you with your breathing, posture and mental and emotional focus, and I will help you work with the presenting feelings within your story to bring healing changes.
Issues in your relationship can be around anything – money, sex or time. Disagreements are normal, but sometimes healthier boundaries are needed, especially if addiction or deception is happening. It can be hard to identify your need for boundaries, and then to know what to do to establish them in your relationship. If you’re wondering about this, get my book, Draw The Line With The One You Love: How To Set A Boundary That Will Strengthen Your Bond.
Your e-book will be available in September.
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Jenny TeGrotenhuis, LMHC
8797 Gage Blvd. Kennewick, WA 99336, USA
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I also write for Thrive Global & The Gottman Relationship Blog
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Q: I find I have less and less in common with my longtime friends. I grew up with them, and they’ll always hold a place in my heart, but as we’ve gotten older, we’ve drifted. There’s no doubt we’re in different places in our lives, and just don’t have that much to...read more