by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Jun 24, 2020 | Heart & Mind, Parenting, Relationships, Uncategorized
What Is Influence? Influence is not pressure, it’s permission. Influence is a force of our love. It’s granted when we demonstrate that we care more about our relationship than our own ideas and opinions. Even with babies and children, we never have control. If a child...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | May 16, 2020 | Heart & Mind, Relationships
John and Shannon brought their tattered marriage to therapy, to see if they could salvage it from an affair. Right away, we discovered they had a deep habitual communication pattern. John had a veneer of sweetness that we decided to call the “chill dude.” He liked to...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Mar 16, 2020 | Heart & Mind, Relationships, Uncategorized
I was interviewed on the Trauma Triangle and What It Means for Your Relationships by Renée Fabian of TheMighty.com. You can read her article here: https://themighty.com/2020/03/trauma-triangle-meaning/ My unedited answers to her interview questions are below. I hope...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Feb 10, 2020 | Dating, Heart & Mind, Relationships
“Healthy communication is the lifeblood of love. A relationship will only be as good as its communication.” Gary Smalley Our motivations (or goals) drive our messages, which are also highly driven by the levels of soothing or stress we feel in...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Sep 8, 2019 | Heart & Mind, Mental Wellness, Relationships
Thrive Global asked me to answer this question for our Gottman column “Asking For A Friend.” I hope my words for this hurting person can help you or someone you know. Q: I feel like I’m being “cookie-jarred” in my relationship. Will things ever...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Aug 2, 2019 | Dating, Heart & Mind
Q: My ex-girlfriend and I broke up about a year ago, and I’ve been dating a new woman for the past few months. We’re happy, and my previous relationship is in the past. But I recently found out that my ex is dating someone new, and for some reason, it bothers me....
