by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Jun 24, 2020 | Heart & Mind, Parenting, Relationships, Uncategorized
What Is Influence? Influence is not pressure, it’s permission. Influence is a force of our love. It’s granted when we demonstrate that we care more about our relationship than our own ideas and opinions. Even with babies and children, we never have control. If a child...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Jun 12, 2020 | Soul & Spirit, Uncategorized
Invalidation is a form of relational trauma which, over time, harms the brain and nervous system, and also results in the disintegration of any healthy bonds of connection, and dissolution of trust in others. Healing requires the slow, ongoing work of diligent growth...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | May 16, 2020 | Heart & Mind, Relationships
John and Shannon brought their tattered marriage to therapy, to see if they could salvage it from an affair. Right away, we discovered they had a deep habitual communication pattern. John had a veneer of sweetness that we decided to call the “chill dude.” He liked to...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Apr 17, 2020 | Body & Brain, Relationships
When Karen’s face popped up on my computer screen, I sensed a storm was raging in her world. “How’ve you and your family been doing with the shelter-in-place mandate?” I asked. “Not great!” She fired back. Frustration, disappointment, and resentment...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Jul 13, 2019 | Body & Brain, Heart & Mind, Mental Wellness, Relationships, Wellness
Q: Hi, Jenny, In my marriage of 16 years, I’m the one who is the giver. I’ve given over and over again for the sake of my husband’s career – moving for his sake, and being supportive about how much time away from home his job takes. I’ve also been...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Jun 21, 2019 | Communication, Heart & Mind, Mental Wellness, Relationships
Q: My husband and I are having communication issues. The main problem is he doesn’t converse with me! Everywhere I read and hear that human connection and bonding is important. He responds “uh huh” to most of my “bids” and I am at a loss as to what to do. I’ve tried...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Oct 9, 2018 | Soul & Spirit
Charlie was in my office yesterday. He was all smiles. So was I. It was a joy to be in his presence. I commended him on the quick and amazing transformation he was able to make in his relationship with Melinda. Even though his job had been extremely...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Apr 5, 2025 | Relationships
Your personalized OASIS couple intensive is designed to work more quickly than conventional couple therapy. Utilizing creative interventions from Relational Neuroscience, in most cases, patterns of disconnection can be transformed to create healthy attachment bonds...
by Jenny TeGrotenhuis | Dec 6, 2020 | Body & Brain, Relationships
I got this request for guidance a few weeks ago from a healthcare worker, and I wanted to share my response with you, my closest readers. I’m privileged that “Kimberly” shared her story and sought advise. This is sad, but symptomatic of how dark these...
